Archive for the ‘honesty’ Category

Most people have the ability to sense if someone is lying to them.

The falsehood might be tipped off by certain non-verbal indicators of nervousness.

Or it might be tipped off by a glaring incongruency between words and facts.

Whatever the case, it is never a good moment when lying occurs and our “Something smells!” sensor starts flashing.

That’s why we’re called to always be truthful.

It is actually quite comforting to have a friendship with someone who never lies to you.
vIt builds trust.

And without trust, there can be no emotional intimacy, whether in a romantic relationship or with a “buddy” relationship.

I have a number of friends with whom I have complete trust that they won’t lie to me.

It’s really good.

I’d never want a kiss from them on my lips — something that I reserve for my wife Lori — but the depth of my appreciation for their integrity is still profound.

Why the reference to a kiss?

Consider these words from Solomon:

An honest answer
 is like a kiss of friendship.” (Proverbs 24:26)

Be truthful in all your communications. Let’s reject the twisting of facts or others’ words in order to put ourselves ahead of others.

We won’t always like one another’s words, But at least we can embrace one another with a shared commitment to integrity and mutual well-being.

As always, I love you

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Most parents have told their kids that “cheaters never win and winners never cheat.”

Well, the principle is important and should be communicated.

The reality, though, is that cheaters sometimes do get an edge in various settings.

At least temporarily.

  • A better job promotion than the honest person.
  • A better real estate deal.
  • The date with the pretty, rich girl at school.
  • Holding up the championship trophy — before the rules-breaking scheme is discovered.
  • More popularity with community bigshots who love the spotlight on themselves but resent the spotlight on what they did to get there.
  • These are just a few ways that unethical people can sprint to the front of the pack via unsanctified words and deeds.

    It’s a crucial life skill to be at peace with second place or third place…. or last place…. when it comes to maintaining our personal integrity.

    What matters most is how God sees our decision to reject cheating.

    We’re to do what’s right, no matter the earthly outcome.

    And sometimes that means “losing” to cheaters.

    God will always provide for us if we’ll abide in His way.

    I was reminded of this truth today while reading from Proverbs 19.

    “It is better to be poor than dishonest.” (verse 22)

    I’d much rather go through the day with an empty stomach than with an empty heart.

    An empty stomach is only a temporary problem.

    An empty heart can very easily become an eternal problem.

    The next time you’re tempted to cheat, to compromise on your ethics, to disregard the Holy Spirit’s warnings to reject that temptation, please recall Proverbs 19:22.

    Being poor is a temporary problem before the eternal windfall.

    Dishonesty is a poison pill that leads to an eternal fall of another sort.

    Choose wisely.

    Choose truth.

    Choose life.

    As always, I love you

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