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I Samuel 26 describes the opportunity David had to kill King Saul, the unjust ruler whose jealousy left him obsessed with killing David.

Despite the persistent push of Saul to end David’s life, the young king-in-waiting resisted the temptation to seek revenge against Saul.

The opportunity was right there for the taking, according to the passage. But David said it was best to let God take care of the payback stuff.

“Surely the Lord will strike Saul down someday, or he will die of old age or in battle. The Lord forbid that I should kill the one He has anointed!” (I Samuel 26:10-11)

We know the Bible teaches us to resist revenge. Let’s follow David’s example the next time that we’re tempted to pursue payback against those who harm us.

God sees what hassles we’ve faced and He will not leave people without consequences of attacking us for no good reason. He is not unjust. He’s just waiting for the right time.

Let’s focus on doing good and let God focus on bringing consequences to those who’ve done bad things to us.

That’s so much better than trying to play God and never getting it right.

As always, I love you

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“Note to self — Never view a hot temper as a tool for success. Hot tempers are like hand grenades instead of rifle bullets, injuring many rather than resolving a specific problem.”

I don’t intend to play pyschiatrist this morning.

I simply want to encourage us both to ignore Satan’s taunting the next time somebody does something that upsets us.

He wants us to get mad and then get loud or get harsh on the way to “getting even.”

How sad.

This isn’t about becoming a spiritual wimp. We ARE to stand firmly for godliness and fairness and protection of the innocent.

But we are to do so with dignity and abundant self-control.

We are to do so with the Word’s wisdom, not with razor or raucous tongues.

We are to do so in a way that people will see our Christ-empowered, Christ-directed nature that seeks not to protect personal vanity, but instead to pursue a resolution through the principles of truth and fairness and kindness.

Please reject Satan’s offer of hand grenades.

King Solomon spoke to this need in the following manner;

People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness.” (Proverbs 14:29)

Let’s be people of understanding.

The world already has enough fools.

As always, I love you

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It’s instructive to watch somebody remain calm and focused on solutions when those around him or her are loudly complaining and accusing.

Such individuals seem to have a gift for managing crisis situations rather than causing them.

You and I aren’t the only ones who appreciate this kind of resolve. I’m sure that the Lord appreciates it as well.

After all, wasn’t He the perfect role model for self-control?

Even when His feelings of anger led Him to throw the money-changers out of the Temple courtyards, Jesus didn’t give full vent to His anger.

Had He done so, there might have been a number of burned spots on the ground where lightning bolts had zapped the greedy men exploiting worshipers.

Having feelings of anger is not a sin if we’re upset about a legitimate injustice contrary to godliness.

It’s letting that anger grab the steering wheel of our minds and hearts that becomes the problem.

Let’s face it. We all encounter circumstances that lure us toward unrestrained, accusatory and vindictive anger.

We just have to recall that emotions aren’t to determine our path. Our devotion to the Lord is to do that.

“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” (Proverbs 29:11)

Let’s do our best to remain calm no matter what happens, imitating the Lord and showing others what pleases Him.

After all, we can be sure that Jesus has chosen to remain calm toward us on countless occasions when our choices probably made Him angry.

As always, I love you

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Sometimes the words speak for themselves.

A passage in today’s daily Bible reading provides one of those occasions:

“The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools.” (Ecclesiastes 9:17)

Join me in pointing our ears toward those who absorb, apply and humbly share the wisdom of God rather than toward those whose influence is built upon volume and vitriol.

People of each sort are in your lives. Make sure that only the influence of the former is in your heart.

And I will seek to do the same.

As always, I love you

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You probably know several hotheads.

You might even be one.

Yes, God loves hotheads just like He loves every human.

But He doesn’t love the pre-disposition to angry attitudes and behavior.

In fact, God said the hothead’s lack of self-control defines him or her as a fool.

Here is a brief verse in today’s One-Year Bible reading.

Fools show their annoyance at once, but the prudent overlook an insult.” Proverbs 12:16

It’s clear that God wants believers to have cooler heads.

God wants us to be defined by how we retain self-control in stressful situations rather than lose control when somebody offends us.

Does God think less of us because a foolish person insulted us?


Aren’t we wimpy if we don’t confront insults with “fire from heaven” as we understand it?


Actually, we show strength when we choose to take a breath or two, or perhaps even take a walk, before we launch into rebuttal mode because of the insult.

It’s likely that somebody will insult you this week or next. We live in a fallen world and circles of influence have no perfect people. That means that wounding words will lance us sooner or later.

When that happens, we can be foolish or we can be wise.

Tearing into somebody who has ticked us off reveals spiritual immaturity.

Choose the better, wiser way.

Let it go.

Be defined by how you reflect faith, not by how you ignore it for the sake of defending your ego.

God will be proud of you when you care more about what He thinks than about what the fool thinks.

As always, I love you

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When you’re really upset over something, whether toward another or toward yourself, how is that displayed outwardly?

Do you yell?

Do you throw things? Hit things?

Do you resort to cutting sacrasm?

Do you pout?

Or do you dig into God’s Word and consult with a God-guided Christian for wisdom on how to face the situation?

It’s very frustrating, of course, to be around somebody whose anger is displayed as rage. This “swinging baseball bat” attitude is terribly costly, often causing far more damage than whatever circumstance prompted the rage.

Yet, we are inspired and instructed when we see a wise person display the horse-whisperer style of response toward somebody who is yelling or throwing things or cutting people down or throwing a contorted-face pout party.

Why this topic today?

Here was a passage in today’s reading from the One-Year Bible:

“Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end” Proverbs 29:11

There is no question that if somebody in your circle of influence starts raging, it’s an ugly moment.

Our challenge as maturing Christians is to bring into that moment the truth of God’s Word, the gracious love previously poured into our hearts by a forgiving God, and the verbalized benefits of seeking lasting remedies rather than re-runs of “Who did this to me?” and “Somebody’s going to pay for this!”

It’s all about grace, actually.

Grace shown to us by a wise, patient God who wants us to find the better Way.

And wise, patient grace shown by us toward raging family, friends and co-workers who need to SEE the better Way.

As always, I love you

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